What are you giving for Valentine’s Day?

Commercials this time of year drive me crazy.  All the Valentine’s Day focus is just a bit… overwhelming.

(No, this isn’t me being snarky because I won’t get flowers.  We’ve covered that already.)

I can’t go 30 minutes without hearing some kind of commercial for roses or chocolate or stuffed animals or “sleep” wear or jewelry.  Quite frankly, it seems a bit lopsided.  All those ads are focused on telling men what to buy for their lady-friend.

(In a random sampling of all the men in my household, my husband indicated quite clearly that no man wants flowers, stuffed animals, jewelry, or thong underwear.  The jury was out on chocolate and boxers.)

It has me a bit confused.

what are you giving for valentine

Am I supposed to buy something for my husband? Beyond a few commercials for greeting cards, I haven’t seen any “helpful” ads giving gift recommendations for the holiday.  The hardware and auto parts stores are devoid of a gift aisle with helpful suggestions for the man in my life.

For a time, I thought I was supposed to cook up some kind of amazing man-dinner to show my undying love for my husband.  But then I remembered all those restaurant specials and commercials for a romantic dinner package.  If my husband is supposed to take me OUT to dinner, it’s kind of hard to think I would cook for him on the same night.

Am I just supposed to model whatever “sleep” ware shows up at the doorstep?  After being plied with champagne and chocolate am I supposed to just melt into his arms with passion?  If I do, is that my gift to him?

(we ARE happily married. don’t be shocked that i used the word “passion”.)

I don’t know what to do!

I get it. The whole Valentine’s Day thing is about showing how much we love the very special people in our life.  It’s about romance.

But it just seems to me that all the advertising and pressure is one sided. The guys are supposed to spend all this time and energy (and money) to shower the ladies in love and romance.

Where’s the pressure on the ladies?

Sometime between now (the day before Valentine’s Day) and next Monday, some woman you know will be in a tiff because her husband didn’t live up to her romantic expectations.  If she’s wise, she’ll keep her unhappiness private.  If she isn’t, it will be all over Facebook.

No men will get in a tiff.  You won’t see vague Facebook posts from men passively expressing their unhappiness because their wife forgot to buy him a card (or bought the wrong size socket wrench for his gift).

Other than this unspoken expectation that we feel passionate, women seem to escape all the pressure of the day.

what are you going to give

What should I give?

Seriously.

I don’t want Valentine’s Day to be a one sided event.  My husband won’t bring me flowers or chocolate, but that doesn’t mean he’s a total lunk-head that ignores the day.  He’ll do something to show me that he loves me.

I need help! I’ll be hanging out on Pinterest for the next day or so trying to find an idea.

If you have suggestions, let me know.

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Susan Baker
I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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Comments

  1. Jolene Rose says:

    I totally agree with you! I think it would depend on your husbands love language. My hubby is a words of affirmation and physical touch kind of guy. So, I will give him a card, and make sure I wear something lacy for him tomorrow night. ;-) He also like desserts, so I might make him and our kiddos some brownies. I think we wives know best how to bless our husbands, and Valentines should be about finding ways to bless and affirm them

    • Since my husband is a quality time guy, I’ll be glued to his side as he watches hunting shows this weekend. He doesn’t mind if I nap in the process. :)

  2. Considering that we are on day 3 of being snowed in, my man will be lucky if we haven’t taken to eating stale crackers by tomorrow! ;) Seriously, though, I feel like Valentine’s Day is for kids and single people!-Ashley

    • By day 3 of being snowed in, stale crackers would be good. I hope y’all thaw out soon!

      kids and single people… bwahahaha! I want that on a shirt.

  3. Since we will be in different cities on Valentine’s Day, I guess my husband will have to settle for a phone call. Or maybe I’ll have a pizza delivered to him.

  4. What did you later give him?

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