An Open Letter to the Worn out and Weary Mom

dear weary mom - 31 days of joy in motherhood from thishappymom.comDear Worn Out and Weary Mom —

I know you’re out there.  I know you stumbled on my blog using google.  I see you, each and every day.   And you aren’t alone.

For over three months,  the second biggest search term that leads people to my blog is “weary, worn out mom.” I know you’re there, searching.

And I wanted to tell you

You are not alone.

At some point, every mom feels the way you do right now.

All of us are tired.  At times, all of us feel like we’re down to our very last ounce of patience.  We all go through times where we feel worn down, worn out, unappreciated, or frazzled.

You are loved.

No matter where you are, no matter what’s going on, God is right there with you.

He loves you.

He can give you the strength and endurance to make it through the rest of today, no matter what is going on.

I know this is true because I’ve lost count of the times I thought I just couldn’t keep going and yet somehow did.  I know that God gives me the love I need to love my kids even when they aren’t very lovable.  I know He gives me the strength and patience and wisdom that I need.

There is Joy.

Joy is the antidote for feeling weary and worn out.

This whole series has been written just for you.  Because I’ve been you.

This whole motherhood thing is far harder than I’d ever imagined.  There’s more self-sacrifice and dirt than I would have ever dreamed.  There’s less glamor, less crafting, and way fewer “Hallmark” moments than I expected.

But it’s also far more rewarding that I could have ever hoped for.  There’s more laughter and tickles than I could have ever asked for.  There’s more confidence that I imagined.  But best of all, there’s far more authentic joyful life (complete with lizards and legos and yellow flowers) than I would have ever thought possible.

In finding my own joy, I figured out how to focus more on the good stuff, minimize the housework and dirt, and let go of those “Hallmark” expectations of mine.

As you find Joy in your own motherhood journey, my prayer for you is that you make that discovery for yourself.

There is Hope.

No matter what has you worn down and wiped out today, know that it will pass.

You won’t always be changing diapers.  Someday, you’ll be so far beyond potty training that you can actually smile and laugh and share your stories.

Whatever the current TV show fixation is, it will pass.  Long after the kids have forgotten the show ever existed, you’ll hear the theme song and remember fondly the way your little one snuggled up on you to watch their favorite show.

However fixated they are on that toy or collectable, it really is just a phase.  Someday, they’ll be done with Thomas or Barbie or Legos or Polly Pocket or whatever it is.  Having just been around about 10,000 college kids dressed for Halloween, I can promise you that NONE of them were still obsessed with that stuff.

The house won’t always self destruct the instant the kids are awake.

They won’t be picky eaters forever.

And tomorrow is a new day.

You get a fresh start, any time you want one.

No matter what happened before nap time, you get to hit the reset button.

No matter how rough things were in the mad rush before school, there’s time for a fresh start at the dinner table.

No matter what happened yesterday, today is a new day.

Any time you realize things have gone south, there’s a way to find a fresh start.

(trust me, as i was swapping silly song lyrics via twitter the other day, there were at least three mommas getting a reboot on our attitudes while we cooked dinner.)

Weary Mom, I am just like you.

Honest.

I just wanted you to know that I see you.  I pray for you.  I understand what you’re going through.

Because I’ve been there too.

Love,

Susan

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I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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  1. Amen, sister! Such a wonderful and uplifting message – LOVE IT!!!

  2. {Melinda} Oh, how I love this post, Susan. It’s so true. Every word. I have been the weary, worn-out mom. As I type this, I have barricaded myself in my bedroom for the evening and left kid duty to my husband because I’m on overload. But I know tomorrow will be better. A few years ago, I wasn’t sure. And that became so depressing. But experience has taught me that the enemy loves to discourage us and make us believe we’ve screwed up and it can’t be fixed. Such a lie. Every day, every moment is a new beginning. And with God, change in us and in those around us is always possible.

    Your words of encouragement, joy and hope will bless many mamas.

    • Melinda, thank you. I think we’ve all been the weary, worn out mom. The big lie we believe is that we’re alone in feeling that way! It ends up making us feel guilty and isolated on top of everything else.

      This post came straight from my heart. It’s what I need to hear when I struggle.

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