Confession: When I first jotted down the topic “express yourself” as part of the 31 Days of Joy in Motherhood series, I started singing the Madonna song.
(and as I type this, I’m still singing it. if you feel a need to put on a super pointy bra and dance around with your underwear outside of your yoga pants, i totally am to blame. sorry.)
(and if that made no sense, go watch the music video on you tube. but be warned… it IS madonna.)
So how does “express yourself” relate to Joy?
Remember on Tuesday when we looked at how to define Joy?
Joy –> Felicity
Felicity makes me giggle.
It’s really an old fashioned way of talking about bliss.
Bliss is pretty much Joy on steroids.
If Happiness is a normal cup of coffee,
Joy would be an espresso.
And bliss would be a double shot.
But Felicity had this really cool definition.
If you can’t read the screen shot from my iPhone, I’ll repeat it.
“The ability to find appropriate expression for one’s thoughts.”
You know how sometimes as a mom you get so busy that you can’t string two thoughts together?
You know how it gets so noisy that you can’t hear yourself think?
You know how you get so tired you can’t finish your own thought without falling asleep?
I have to ask…
What do you think that does to your Joy?
When we (and I’m guilty) get so busy and tired and frantic and stressed and … and… and… that we lose ourselves, we lose out on the Joy of Motherhood.
Flip that around…
To find Joy in Motherhood, we need to create a space that is free from stress, a space that isn’t busy, a space where we can string our thoughts together, a space where we are free to express ourselves authentically.
So what does that “space” look like?
Honestly, I suspect it looks a little different for each of us. But in general, it has several aspects.
Look at the definition again:
The ability to find appropriate expression for one’s thoughts.
You need the ability to find stuff.
You need an appropriate expression / outlet
You need to think your own thoughts.
Notice it says “appropriate expression!” This is NOT an excuse to go telling people off or walking down the street naked. Both may qualify as self-expression, but they can hardly be considered appropriate.
Your “joy assignment” today is to think about what kind of creative outlet you need. It may be writing or scrapbooking or singing. It can be fancy cooking, crochet, or even dancing. Just identify what it is that meets your need for creative self expression AND that fits your budget and lifestyle.
Me? Obviously one form of expression that meets my needs is writing. I’ve always tended to journal when I’m unhappy. Right now, I also am using crochet to keep my sanity.
Every Friday, I express myself by participating in Five Minute Friday. Watch for a post today and then join me. (They are categorized under FMF on my menu.)
What’s your favorite way to express yourself?
[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]http://thishappymom.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/DSC_0036.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]Houston Mom Blogger Susan Baker has a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood. She has two elementary school boys, one engineering husband, and one cat. She has a strange fascination for eggs, socks, and books. She spends far too much time on Social Media and at Target. [/author_info] [/author]