Anger is not always wrong.

Sometimes, anger can be a good thing.

In the middle of a series on anger, that seems a strange thing to say.

But… it’s true.

Anger is not always wrong.  It isn’t always a sin.   When it happens for the right reasons and is expressed correctly, anger is good.

Anger can be OK.

Don’t believe me?

1 Kings 11:9,10 And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the LORD, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods. But he did not keep what the LORD commanded.

God got angry.

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It isn’t an isolated incident either.  There are multiple passages of scripture that talk about God being angry.

It’s where the phrase “righteous anger” comes from.

God’s anger appears to follow a pattern. I’m not a Bible scholar. I didn’t spend weeks pouring through scripture to verify this.  But a quick 30 minute trip through the search results painted a pretty clear picture.

  1. God gave people multiple chances to make a better choice.
  2. The anger is a measured and chosen response.

That’s a far cry from when I yell at my kids for leaving dirty socks on the stairs.

The key is control.

Scripture is pretty straightforward on the subject of anger.  In contrast to God’s anger against Solomon, try these:

Proverbs 14:29 Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

and

Proverbs 19:11 Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

The issue isn’t anger.  There is not a single verse of scripture that says, in effect,  “anger = evil.”  There are a LOT of verses about hasty anger and even hypocritical anger being foolish.  There are verses that extol the virtue of a slow and measured used of anger.

When God gets angry, it’s a choice.

When the fool gets angry, it’s an unthinking response to provocation.

Be slow to anger.

The whole point of a mommy time out is to give ourselves a tiny slice of time to think.

The point of counting to 10 (or 100) is the same.

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When we have time to think, we give ourselves the opportunity to choose anger and measure it out constructively.  It’s in that tiny slice of time that we have the chance to not be like the foolish person describe in Proverbs.

Be slow to anger.

That’s what the margin is all about.

 

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Susan Baker
I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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  1. I’m not trying to give you the big head or anything, but I wanted to say your blogs are really helping me become slower to be angry. In fact, today I got through an entire day without getting upset with any of my kids. Even though Zeva woke me up to her having an all out full blown temper tanturm (spelling is not my virtue) not only once but twice.

    • Crystal, I saw your comment last night and it made me smile. I wanted to hop out of bed and reply, but my husband vetoed the idea. 🙂

      My posts are helping ME to slow down too. The whole series is a God thing. There is no way I could have sat down and written these posts on my own. It’s more a case of me sitting down with my Bible and searching scripture for inspiration. It’s amazing how quickly God is changing my heart as I do so.

      Sorry that Zeva had some temper tantrums again. I know it doesn’t help, but it IS a normal part of development. If she wasn’t having tantrums at her age, you would have cause for concern. Just remember that they aren’t about you. They’re about her frustration and her inability to make the world be exactly how she wants it to be (no matter how irrational and impossible that is). She will eventually grow out of it… like maybe around 25? 🙂

      • I do know it’s a normal part of growing up. I had to deal with it with my other youngin’s. It isn’t a fun stage to deal with though at all!! Of course, neither is dealing with a pre-teen attitude, but at least that I can adjust in a few short minutes.

        I have noticed a huge difference in our home though lately. You’re right this is a God thing. I can feel it every time I come to your posts. I can feel God working in me on Wednesday’s posts that I do. They are my favorite posts to do, and they are usually well written in my head long before my fingers hit a keyboard. Some weeks are more powerful than other’s that for sure.

        As far as your husband stopping you from getting up, I’m glad to hear that he cares enough to keep you in bed. 😉 That’s a good thing!!! I have tried to sneak away from my husband at night to only have him hollering my name less than 20 minutes later wondering where and the hang I am no matter how sound asleep he is when I’ve left the room.

        • With my tweens, I can at least send them away (or leave) without feeling like I’ve put them in danger. And at least I can see some form of logic in their tantrums. When they lose it, it’s because they want more video game time or more Legos or more television. Or maybe because they don’t want to eat their vegetables. I can RELATE to those. But crying because they have to put on shoes or wear long sleeves or any of the other random and irrational things toddlers cry about… it frustrated the snot out of me at times. It’s just so hard to be patient and understanding over something so trivial. My youngest used to have a FIT at the fast food places if they handed him the milk container with a girl on it. I didn’t even notice that there were containers with boys and containers with girls. But to him, it mattered. It got to me every single time (right up until I started asking for two “boy milks” with an eye roll.)

          ps – glad to know I’m not the only person who sits down with a post mentally written. Those are always my favorite posts. 🙂

  2. Hey Susan,

    You are right, I am agree with that line “Sometimes, anger can be a good thing.”.

    For example: If employee is doing wrong things again and again after his/her boss’s instructions then definitely boss will show anger to do right work. At that time company boss’s anger is right.

    ~Diana

  3. As long as you’re not letting anger rule your life, it’s all good, yes?

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