To my friend who doesn’t blog

to my friend who doesn't blog

Forgive me while I write an entirely self-serving post to my friend who doesn’t blog.

Given that I’ve had bits and pieces of this conversation with several friends over the past few weeks, I’m hoping my friend won’t recognize herself.

(and if she does, i’m hoping my friend won’t get her feelings hurt. girl – you know that’s not how i roll.)

See, my non-blogging friend thinks my blog is a waste of my time and talents.  She doesn’t even see it as a cute little hobby or an ego-centric online diary.

No.  She sees it as a giant time-suck… a distraction from important things… a total waste of my time.

This goes beyond her criticism that my blog does not make any money (it doesn’t – the rare gift card isn’t enough to cover my expenses).  It’s her assertion that my time could be better spent on activity that actually does make money.

My friend who doesn’t blog has me quite upset.

At one level, I understand what she’s saying.   Blogging is (quite frankly) a giant time-suck.  Writing, creating artwork, marketing my blog, spending time on social media… it can consume as many hours each day as I let it.  Even after all of that is done, there’s still back-end maintenance, the total redesign of how the blog looks, networking with potential sponsors… the list is endless.

So yeah, I get it.  On the surface, it looks like I’m wasting a LOT of time on something that offers very little return on investment.

I understand her point about there being only so many hours each day.  Trying to run more than one home based business (blogging and direct sales) demands more hours than exist in a week.  I get that.

Trust me.  I get that.  The juggling act lately has been insane.  Crazy.

I get it.


There’s no way I’m giving up blogging.  Not now.  Not when it meets so many of my needs and makes my heart sing.  Not when it seems that every part of my life weaves together and makes sense because it all ties back to one little spot on the web.

The direct marketing thing?  I can give it up.  I have fun with it. I love being a bit more sociable.  I love how it lets me encourage other women and invest in their lives.   I love how it gives me more interesting things to blog about.  I love how it stretches and challenges me to turn weaknesses into strengths.


Here’s the deal.  I know the juggling act is a bit much.  I understand that there is a limit to how effective I can be at anything because I just don’t have time for everything.

So I quit.

Yeah.   Just like that.

I quit.

You know what I’m going to quit?  I’m going to quit trying to survive without maid service.  I’m going to quit watching that vapid show on television.  I’m giving up pretending that I can do it all.

So there.

Problem solved.

One last thing?

Just for my friend who doesn’t blog.

How in the name of all that is rational and logical can you spend twenty minutes berating me for my giant time-suck of a blog and then turn around not an hour later and ask for my help starting your very own blog… because you’ll use it to make money?



Did you not even appreciate the irony of my response when I referred to helping non-writers start a blog as a giant time-suck that didn’t seem like it would make me any money.

I really was taken aback when my response hurt your feelings.

After all, I was just quoting you.

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I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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  1. {Kathy} Word.
    Susan, if you stopped blogging, the sun wouldn’t be as bright. The grass wouldn’t be as green. Your shoes wouldn’t be as pink…….
    It really chaps my rear end when well-meaning folks try and “help” us by pointing out failings in time management. Your response is spot on.
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  2. I can relate to your feelings about your blog – that it makes your heart sing feeds you soul so much that you will continue to write regardless of how much or how little money you make.
    I’m sorry that your friend didn’t get that. Would she have made the same comment to an artist? Someone who spends hours and days on a painting knowing that it may or may not ever find its way into a buyer’s home?
    I love your tongue in cheek response to her – even if she didn’t get it!
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    • This particular friend probably WOULD have said something similar to an artist. Not everyone values creativity. That’s ok. She has other qualities that still make her a good friend. Even though the comments irritated me, I actually am thankful for friends who love me enough to challenge me and ask hard questions.
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  3. Blogging might not be making me any money but if I think of it as cheap therapy, it is saving me money! I’m sorry your friend decided to pass judgment on how you spend your time, that is completely up to YOU. Personally, I’m glad you spend your time blogging because if you didn’t I’d miss reading your thoughts.

  4. And you know what else? There’s probably stuff she does that “wastes” just as much time as you “waste” by blogging. And you never know what doors your blog will open for you or how many women you may have already helped. One of these days, maybe sooner if she wants you to help her start a blog, she’ll see the light.
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    • Patty, thanks for being so supportive. I don’t know how many women I touch with my words. None of who blog ever know that. I’m blessed by amazing comments and sometimes even emails that let me know I’ve touched at least a handful. Even a handful is an honor beyond anything I could have ever imagined.
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  5. I am standing up giving you a round of applause. It’s so hard to describe it to non-bloggers. When something makes you feel fulfilled (makes your heart sing as you said) it just isn’t a waste of time. That’s it in a nutshell.

    We’ve finally started making a bit of money, but when you divide that by the amount of time we spend on it,we’re working for pennies. (When you said blogging will take up as much time as you let it—never was a truer sentence typed.) But it’s about more than that. We’re not giving it up either!! –Lisa

    • Thanks. 🙂 I work for less than pennies, but that doesn’t mean I’m giving up. If it were just about making money there are so many other things I’d be doing.

  6. So long as you can afford to feed, clothe, and house your family and it makes you happy, who has the right to tell YOU that you are wasting time in your own precious life? You only get the one. You don’t have to follow someone else’s timetable for living it.
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