A Shot In The Dark

A Shot in the DarkI titled this “a shot in the dark” but I could have titled it “how my marriage works” or “modern marriage problems.”  Ultimately, it’s a story about how my husband and I navigate through the little problems in life.

I think most couples act like this – even if it’s just in the privacy of their own heads.

Remember our charming country “barn” at Camp No-Fi?  The one that my kids thought played DVD’s?

Remember that it was dark.  Country dark?

it was country dark

The first night we stayed at the cabin, I hadn’t thought about the whole “country dark” thing.

I just turned out the lights and fell asleep.

In a pitch-black room, it’s easy to go to sleep. There’s nothing to look at. There aren’t noises to distract you. It’s awesome.

The problem comes in the middle of the night.

I woke up. It was dark. Really really dark.

I was in a strange pitch black room with only a vague recollection of where the bathroom was, and I needed the bathroom.

When we went to bed, my husband and I realized we’d left all our chargers in the car. We decided to ignore the problem and just go to bed. We figured there would be enough battery to make it through the night.

Since we were staying at the Lo-Fi cabin, it didn’t really matter.

At least not until 4am.

In the pitch dark of my room, I groped desperately for my phone. I breathed a silent prayer.

Please let the battery still have life.

(it did)

Going potty in the dark is so weird.

going potty in the darkIt reminded me of the time I was in a bathroom at church and someone turned the lights off. It was one of those inside bathrooms, the kind with no windows and no emergency light.


That time I didn’t have my phone with me.

No flashlight. Just me. In the dark. Groping for the toilet paper and fumbling with buttons.


I realized I want a little light in the bathroom.

The next night, I tried to leave a small light on the bathroom to serve as a guiding light in my hour of need. I had even gently suggested to my husband that he leave a decorative light on in the main room.

I woke up to total darkness at 2am. Not only had my husband turned every freaking light off, he’d very thoughtfully put my phone on the charger in another room.


After fumbling for a moment to find the switch for the small light I’d left on earlier (that was now off) I gave up. I flipped on the whole she-bang. Lots of lights. All shining in my husband’s angelic face as he slept.

Oops. My bad.

I might have made a little noise in the process that might have accidentally disturbed my husband’s slumber. I couldn’t help it, I was in pain from slamming into the wall in the dark.

My husband liked the dark.

(and he was none too appreciative of the “search light” that i shined in his eyes.  some people can be so grouchy at 4am.  sheesh!)

The next night was awesome. I put a glow stick in the sink in the bathroom. You can’t turn a glow stick off.

Problem solved.

 Have to ask.  How would you have handled this?  

Susan Baker
I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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  1. My husband and I agree on this one. Neither of us are big fans of the dark. The bathroom light would have been left on. 🙂

  2. We would have left the light on. I get up at least once a night, more lately, so there’s no way I would have put up with no light. The glow stick was brilliant!
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  3. I enjoyed reading your story Susan! Great Idea of keeping glow sticks at home, even I’m thinking of buying some which will help me in emergencies 😉

  4. I enjoyed reading your story Susan! Great Idea of keeping glow sticks at home, even I\’m thinking of buying some which will help me in emergencies 😉

  5. Very interesting

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