My sister was right.

my sister was rightI’d never admit it, but my sister was right.

A few months ago, as I was purging out the excess from my closet, I posted a question on my Facebook page.

“How many pairs of yoga pants do I really need?”

My sister went off on me.

Not in a bad way, but she didn’t exactly mince words.  In part, she said

Personally, I’ve found it even more important being a SAHM for almost 15 years to “dress”. I’m not saying I’m cute everyday, but I do find a correlation between how I feel about myself, and in turn how I interact with my kids & even how much I stay on top of all the daily mundane chores around the house to how I’ve been dressing.

I immediately flashed back to the old black and white sit-coms where the woman is shown vacuuming the house in pearls and high heels.

Sister, that ain’t gonna happen.

I am NOT prancing around the house in high heels.  Life is too short to walk around with sore feet.  And while I may wear skirts in the summer time, I’m not pairing them with pearls.

Since she IS my little sister, I felt comfortable just blowing off her words of wisdom – what could she possibly know?  She’s younger than me.  (grumble grumble grumble)

Never mind that her kids are older than mine and that she started her journey as a stay at home mom back before I was even married. Never mind that her house is cleaner than mine and prettier. Never mind that she’s skinnier than me.  And never mind that she’s been giving me a serious run for my money in the word games we play online… she might just be smarter than me too!


Somewhere over the Christmas holidays, I noticed something.

The days that I dressed “for comfort” I ended up getting very little accomplished.  Those were the days that we ended up eating out, watching television, and not even getting a load of laundry done.
The days that I “felt cute” ended up being awesome days.  Those were the surprise-I’m-baking-cookie days.  Or the “hey, let’s go on an adventure” days.  They were also the days when my husband did stuff on the honey-do list without me even asking.

On the days where I had “dressed cute” I went to bed with a clean kitchen and folded laundry.


Then I took a serious look at the difference in my outfits.  In almost every case, it was the exact same pair of shoes.

It came down to the difference between black jeans and ratty faded blue jeans.  It came down to identical t-shirts in two different colors.  It came down to remembering to wear earrings and slap on some lip gloss.


(shh!  the cute outfit wasn’t any less comfortable.)

Earlier this week, I caught myself pulling on the comfy clothes.  As I did, I found myself thinking

“first day back at school for the kids, I don’t feel like accomplishing much today.  I’m going to wear the comfy clothes.”

Ouch.  Eeek.  Yikes.

Today, I pulled on my favorite top and black pants. I always get complements on the outfit.

“today is going to be a great day.  I am going to get so much done!”


My sister was right.

I hate to admit it, in part because I’ll NEVER hear the end of it.

[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’][/author_image] [author_info]Houston Mom Blogger Susan Baker has a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood. She has two elementary school boys, one engineering husband, and one cat. She has a strange fascination  for eggs, socks, and books.  She spends far too much time on Social Media and at Target. She is crazy in love with her family.  She serves an amazing God.   She lives an ordinary life filled with wonder. [/author_info] [/author]


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I have a passion for encouraging weary worn out mothers to find joy in everyday motherhood and peace in unlikely places. I have two elementary school boys, one nerdy husband, and two cats. I have a strange fascination for bad puns, the color pink, socks, and books. I worry about running out of toilet paper, wine, and chocolate.. I serve an amazing God. I live an ordinary life filled with wonder.
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  1. Love this post! It is what I have resolved to do in the new year! I will take the few extra minutes to blow dry my hair, put on a bit of make up and wear those earrings! I teach kinder all day so I do like comfortable, but I have some pretty clothes that are just as comfy to wear. I feel like I have a “spring in my step” on those days! Thanks for your great thoughts! I will read them again if I need a reminder!

    • Aw… thank you. 🙂 I have the exact same pair of slacks in black and grey. I was really shocked when I realized how huge the difference was for me. I’ve been busy tossing out my frumpy clothes ever since!

  2. I have noticed this as well. Of course, I don’t think there is anything wrong with jumpstarting things in the middle of the day by changing out of those comfy clothes and fixing hair and make-up but I do have better days if I do those things at the start of my day.
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  3. You’ve left pretty much speechless! And as I sit here in my sweatshirt, baseball cap & baggy jeans (because I haven’t taken a bath yet) realizing it’s almost dinner time and I’ve got no plans, AND I just put in my first load of laundry for the day, I have to say “Thanks for the reminder!”. Even wise little sisters need a kick in the butt. Lol! Now I’m off to see if I can’t salvage the whopping you’re giving me in WWF! 😉

    • I await your WWF play with eagerness. Bring it. 🙂

      And may I suggest spaghetti for dinner? Can’t help you with the whole “not taking a shower” thing – we all have our days.

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